April 22, 2022 • Life for Leaders
Scripture—James 1:19 (MSG)
Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear.
Yesterday I shared the first practice that helps us stay aligned with God in a distracting world: attacking ego. Today we’re going to discover the importance of learning to “shut up and listen.” Now I know that sounds like something shouted in the midst of an argument, but believe me, it’s good advice! Then tomorrow we’ll close out our series by learning how to “value community.”
Yesterday we talked about the value of attacking our egos. That was the first of three practices we can use to stay in alignment with God.
If attacking your ego makes you nervous—especially the part where you give other people permission to do so as well—you’re going to enjoy today’s practice much more.
Learn to Shut Up and Listen.
Here’s why that’s key to staying aligned with God. Whenever I’m talking, my attention is mostly in my own head. When I shut up and listen, however, I can be more in the moment with others. I can pay attention to the heart, mind, and soul of the person I’m listening to.
But just because listening is more enjoyable than having someone criticize your ego, don’t think it’s easy. Your pride is going to show up. It’s going to remind you that you can supposedly solve every problem, explain every solution, and impress people with your knowledge.
When that happens, tell your pride to shut up and start listening to others! We need to make it a habit to intentionally listen, even if it feels unnatural. (It does to me. It’s worth saying that I suck at this practice … which is why I keep practicing it.)
But when I do it right, I definitely notice God showing up.
Perhaps the reason is the symbiotic relationship between the first practice of attacking ego and the second practice of shutting up to listen. Keeping my ego in check requires me to shut up and listen, and the act of shutting up to listen helps to keep my ego in check. The two weave together and strengthen each other.
James wrote, “…Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue…” (James 1:19 MSG). In other words, shut up and listen before you start talking!
Doing this well takes practice. It takes self-discipline. And it takes one more key ingredient, which I’ll discuss tomorrow.
When have you listened to others?
When have others listened to you?
What do you hear when you listen to others and to God?
Make space to spend time with a friend and really listen to each other. Set aside enough time in your schedule that you can have a good conversation that goes deep into issues of mind and heart.
Lord, I know you have much to say to me. Help me develop a listening ear so that I may hear what you have to teach, and so that I may hear and respond to the needs of others. Amen.
A Note from Mark:
I’m grateful to Roy Goble for sharing today’s devotion with us. If you don’t know Roy, you can read my introduction in yesterday’s devotion. Let me also encourage you to check out Roy’s newest book, Junkward Wisdom Rebuilt. Grace and Peace, Mark
Find all Life for Leaders devotions here. Explore what the Bible has to say about work at the unique website of our partners, the Theology of Work Project. Commentary on today’s Life for Leaders theme can be found here: Listening, Taking Action, and Avoiding Anger (James 1:19–21)
Subscribe to Life for Leaders
Sign up to receive a Life for Leaders devotional each day in your inbox. It’s free to subscribe and you can unsubscribe at any time.
Roy Goble grew up working in his father’s junkyard, where he learned to take apart absolutely anything and to evaluate everything for the value of its parts. After studying economics and business at Westmont College, and marrying his high school sweetheart, D’Aun, he joined his family’s growing real estate business. As the business flourished, he experienced the complexity of creating wealth while following Jesus. He began to wrestle with what he knew about business and what Jesus was calling him to be and do, beginning a decades-long quest for a way to understand his place in God’s kingdom and in a global society.
Click here to view Roy’s profile.
I love Mr. Goble’s devotional. But he has avoided an aspect of James 1:19-20. Anger is a sin and is created by an overactive ego and pridefulness. Pridefulness keeps us from listening to others, And verse James 1:20 says that there is no such thing as rightous anger. I look forward to his third installment.
In order to be a good witness especially in a church setting the more you grow in knowledge the more you need to listen to others as not everyone will be on your same level and learning to ask questions and nudge others is an art form that I only wish I had a mastery of.
Basically we need to speak up as Jesus says shout it from the rooftops however we need to make sure people are heard as well.
That doesn’t give us a pass to let error or self-pity or prayers about people only remotely close to someone in (as that is only a form of godliness but denies the power). We are supposed to stay away from these people.
There is a way to speak to believers as well as unbelievers. And a big part of it is learning how to listen so we know the questions to ask or so we aren’t simply puffed up in our own minds.
There is definitely a give and take aspect to talking; we just need to know when to hold and when to fold.
God please give us the wisdom to know how to do this.