One Reason Why Your Words Matter to God

Scripture – Ephesians 4:29-30 (NRSV)

Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with which you were marked with a seal for the day of redemption.

Devotion

In yesterday’s Life for Leaders devotion, we saw that our words can grieve the Holy Spirit. When we use words to tear people down rather than building them up, we sadden God’s own Spirit.

Why? Why does Ephesians 4:29-30 make such a close connection between words and grieving the Spirit?

One answer to this question comes from the end of verse 29: “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with which you were marked with a seal for the day of redemption.” We were first exposed to this hopeful notion in the first chapter of Ephesians: “In [Christ] you also, when you had heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and had believed in him, were marked with the seal of the promised Holy Spirit; this is the pledge of our inheritance toward redemption as God’s own people, to the praise of his glory.” The presence of the Holy Spirit in our lives is a sign, a guarantee of the full redemption that is coming. At that time God will make all things fully right—including us. Our relationships will be completely what God intends them to be. All of our words will build up, offer grace, celebrate beauty, and communicate love. So when we act and speak in ways contrary to our future redemption we grieve the Spirit who is the guarantee of that redemption.

Consider this rough analogy. In movies, and, I suppose, in real life, when married people have affairs they often remove their wedding rings. Why? Because there is something terribly wrong with wearing a sign of one’s marriage covenant while breaking that very covenant. If a wedding ring had feelings, and if the wearer of that ring committed adultery, then surely the ring would grieve.

So it is with the Spirit of God. When we sin in words and in deeds the Spirit grieves because we are acting contrary to who we are in Christ and to the covenant God has made with us. Moreover, we are contradicting the reality of who we will one day be when God redeems all things.

Yet—and here’s some astoundingly good news—we cannot “take off” the Spirit when we sin as we might remove a ring. Our passage does not suggest that God will remove the Spirit from us. Rather, when we sin through our words, God’s Spirit remains faithfully present—ready to help us repent, confess, receive forgiveness, and live so as to honor God in all we do.

Furthermore, the Spirit is at work in us, helping us to be people who are formed so as to use words for good. God, through the Spirit, is in the process of making us to be more and more what we will one day be in God’s presence. As it says in 2 Corinthians 3:18, “And all of us, with unveiled faces, seeing the glory of the Lord as though reflected in a mirror, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another; for this comes from the Lord, the Spirit.” Through the Holy Spirit, God is transforming us. As this happens, we will be more and more inclined to use words that build up others for the glory of God.

Reflect

Do you ever think of what you will be like in the day when God redeems all things?

How might focusing on this coming reality make a difference in your life today?

How can you speak and act today so as to live consistently with the seal upon your life, the Holy Spirit of God?

Act

Today’s action step is the same as yesterday’s: If you’re reading this devotion in the morning, think about how you might use your words today to build someone up. Ask the Lord for help with this. Then do it. (If you’re reading this devotion in the evening, you can do what I’m suggesting tomorrow.)

Pray

Gracious God, thank you for claiming me as your own. Thank you for placing on me a permanent sign of the fact that I belong to you. Thank you for the Spirit who guarantees the redemption that is to come, when I will be fully the person you have created me to be. And thank you, Lord, for not removing your Spirit from me when my words and deeds are grievous to you.

Help me, I pray, to speak and act in ways that are consistent with who I will be on the day of redemption. Help me to honor the seal you have placed upon me, your very Spirit. Amen.

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