Can You Give God Joy?

By Mark D. Roberts

August 23, 2021

Scripture – Ephesians 4:29-30 (NRSV)

Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with which you were marked with a seal for the day of redemption.


Ephesians teaches us that we can grieve the Holy Spirit by using words that tear people down. We can make God sad, so to speak. But can we give God joy? Could using words to build people up actually delight the heart of God?


In several recent Life for Leaders devotions, we have considered how our words might grieve the Holy Spirit. When we speak in ways that are contrary to the person we will be on the day when God redeems all things, the Spirit grieves. When our words hurt our brothers and sisters in Christ and injure the body of Christ, the Spirit grieves. The idea that we can actually grieve the Holy Spirit surely will motivate us to avoid “evil talk” in favor of talk that edifies others.

But before we leave Ephesians 4:30, I want to ask a question that isn’t addressed directly in the verse but is something about which we might wonder. If our speech can grieve the Holy Spirit, is it also possible for what we say to give joy to God? If our hurtful words can sadden God’s Spirit, can our edifying words give delight to the Lord?

In order to answer this question, we need first to consider a broader question: Can we give joy to God at all? Can our words, deeds, thoughts, and choices give God pleasure?

I think many Christians would answer this question negatively. We know we can grieve the Lord. We’re quite convinced that our sin can make God angry. But God rejoicing in us? That seems like wishful thinking, the kind of pop theology that shows up on corny religious posters but has nothing to do with reality. God, for many of us, is a stern, demanding, imperious King who—if we’re really good and really lucky—will not be angry with us or grieved over us. The best we can hope for is that God will feel neutral about us.

This perception of God can be fueled by our experience of our own parents. My father, for example, loved me deeply and dearly. In most ways, he was a great dad. But he had difficulty expressing his positive feelings for me. He was not physically expressive. He rarely told me in words that he loved me. And never in my life did my dad ever say, “I’m proud of you.” Though I knew in my head that my dad delighted in me, I rarely experienced his delight in a way that touched my heart.

So, as you might expect, I easily project upon my Heavenly Father what I experienced from my earthly father. I know God loves me. I believe God will always be there for me. I know God would do anything for me (and, in fact, he has). But do give God joy? Can I give delight to my Heavenly Father? This is hard for me to acknowledge and even harder for me to feel deep in my yearning soul.

In tomorrow’s devotion, I’ll examine what Scripture says about our potential to give joy to God. (If you’re impatient, you might check out Psalm 149:4.) For now, I’d encourage you to reflect on your own relationship with God. The following questions might be helpful to you.


Do you believe that you can give joy to God? If so, does this belief reside in your heart as well as your head? If not, why not?

How has your experience of your parents affected your relationship with your Heavenly Father?

If you really believed that you could give joy to God, how might this make a difference in your life?


Take time to reflect on the idea of your giving joy to God. Does this idea come easily to you? If so, why? If not, why not?


Gracious Heavenly Father, I do not want to grieve your Spirit. I do not want to sadden you or anger you. What I really want is to honor you in all that I do and say, to please you, perhaps even to give you joy. Yet, Lord, I don’t want to make up feel-good religious slogans that are not grounded in your Word. Help me, I pray, to know what is true about you and the way you relate to me. Where my mind is off track, please correct it. Where my heart is wounded, please heal it. Help me to know you truly, deeply, and as fully as is possible for me on this side of Heaven. Amen.

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Mark D. Roberts

Senior Strategist

Dr. Mark D. Roberts is a Senior Strategist for Fuller’s Max De Pree Center for Leadership, where he focuses on the spiritual development and thriving of leaders. He is the principal writer of the daily devotional, Life for Leaders,...

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