The Hard Work of Loving Our Enemies

By Deidra Riggs

March 5, 2016

You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.

Matthew 5:43-45a

 A Note from Mark:

I want to introduce you to the writer of our devotions this weekend. I had the privilege of getting to know Deidra Riggs when I worked at the H. E. Butt Family Foundation. She and I collaborated on The High Calling, a digital outreach focused on the integration of faith in all of life, including our daily work. I loved partnering with Deidra for many reasons. She is bright, funny, passionate, loving, and wise. She is a mature Christian who believes that faith in Christ is relevant to every part of life, or, in the words of her latest book, Every Little Thing: Making a Difference Right Where You Are. As a sister in Christ who is an African American woman, she has helped me understand vital truths about race in our country and the church. Plus, Deidra is a wonderful writer. I love reading her “stuff,” and I know you will too.

Darkness crossed out with a heart drawn in color pencil.In 1994, the country of Rwanda experienced an upheaval from which they, and many of us, are still reeling. Beginning on April 7 of that year, and lasting for approximately one hundred days, the Hutu population rose up and slaughtered one million members of the Tutsi population. In many cases the murderers and victims had been friends and neighbors. Their children had attended school together, learning in the same classrooms and playing on the same playgrounds.

Tensions had been building between the two groups for decades. In some of the years leading up this horrific genocide, there had been conflicts and seasons of violence. But, nothing compared to the atrocities committed over the course of those one hundred days in 1994. Incited by the government and spurred on by what can only be described as the evil of crowd mentality pushed horribly and irreversibly beyond the brink, ordinary Hutu citizens armed themselves with machetes, swords, and makeshift clubs. They hunted down their Tutsi neighbors and former friends, and beat and hacked them to death, torturing them in the streets, burning down their homes, and mercilessly murdering their children — those born and unborn.

Immaculèe Ilibagiza, along with seven other women, survived the massacre by hiding in a small bathroom in the home of a Hutu minister. They lived there for ninety-one long days and nights of terror, fear, and grave uncertainty. Ilibagiza tells her story in the book, “Left to Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust.” Of her six family members, only Immaculèe and her brother — a student in Senegal at the time of the genocide — survived.

It would be easy to choose sides, here. It would be easy to let our hearts become hardened and to label the Hutus “evil” in this story. But that is exactly how hatred begins. Setting up walls and drawing lines of division is an invitation to the influence of the next kind of evil, and then the next, and then the next.

Not long after Immaculèe was rescued and the genocide had ended, Immaculèe went to the prison to meet with the man who led the gang that killed her mother and her brother. While the Tutsi guard watched, the Hutu prisoner could not raise his eyes to meet those of his victims’ daughter and sister. The Hutu prisoner’s name was Felicien, and this is what Immaculèe writes of their encounter:

“Felicien was sobbing. I could feel his shame. He looked up at me for only a moment, but our eyes met. I reached out, touched his hands lightly, and quietly said what I’d come to say. ‘I forgive you.’”

After suffering so much grief and loss, it’s hard to believe this encounter. This was no cheap or quick forgiveness. A reading of Immaculèe’s story tells of her long journey to the grace of forgiveness. It is the fulfillment of Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:44, in which he instructs, “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”

This way that Jesus teaches us to live feels backwards and illogical. But, he was serious. He didn’t say, “If you want to give this a try, maybe it will help to love your enemies and pray for the people who make your life difficult.” There is no way around the direction Jesus calls us to take. Love is the way of the cross and it is the pathway to hope, healing, and redemption. As Immaculèe writes, “The love of a single heart can make a world of difference.”

Questions to Consider

When are you tempted to choose anger over love?

What do you think of Jesus’ command for us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us? How does this command apply to your life today?


Lord, I don’t always trust your way to be the best way. My deep pain often keeps me from being able to love. Please heal my hurt and, where I am unable, give me love for those who bring me pain. Let your love be my strength in all the places I am weak. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.


Image Credit: CC0 Public Domain.


Explore more at the Theology of Work Project online Bible commentary.

Deidra Riggs

Writer & Author

Deidra Riggs is a national speaker, an editor, and the founder and host of Jumping Tandem: The Retreat, a bi-annual event for writers, authors, and entrepreneurs. She is a storyteller who creates safe space for navigating...

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