The Spiritual Practice of Disagreeing (Without Being Disagreeable)

By Deidra Riggs

April 30, 2017

Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

Matthew 7:1-2


A crowd gathered together in a civil protestLast week, a guy came to our city. He arrived in a gigantic tour bus and he had a police escort and he stood on the steps of our Capital building and drew a great crowd. I knew he was coming. All around town, for weeks, there had been posted fliers and posters and placards announcing his arrival. I saw the announcements, made a mental note of the date, and reminded myself to avoid the area that day.

This guy and I? We do not see the world the same way. Despite the fact that we both love Jesus, the things this guy says often make me roll my eyes. Jesus knew this about us. He knew our salvation was no guarantee we’d always agree with one another.

By a clever turn of events, despite my best intentions, God saw fit to have me standing in the crowd when this certain guy came to our city. I prayed before I went, knowing all too well my propensity toward mumbling something unsavory under my breath and building a wall around my heart so no love can get in, or out. “God,” I said out loud to the air around me, “help me to see what you see.”

I stood on the sidewalk, struggling with myself to stop being judgmental, and confessing — moment after moment — my bad feelings about this guy and the throngs of people who’d come out to our city to show him their support.

All I can tell you is that I kept up a furious cycle of praying and confessing, praying and confessing, praying and confessing. I prayed that God would show me what he saw, and I confessed when I cast judgment on someone in the crowd.

Here’s the thing: It’s not our role to judge. That’s Jesus’ job, and he knows what he’s doing. My job, while standing in a crowd of people who see the world differently than I do, was to love them. Period. The end. Jesus gave us clear instructions. If I’m wrong, he’ll let me know. If you’re wrong, I’ve got to trust the work of the Holy Spirit in your life to reveal your missteps to you. In the meantime, the very clear commandment we’ve been given boils down to four letters: L-O-V-E. When my motive is anything but love, I’m on my way down a slippery slope. How do we get to love? We get there through a furious cycle of prayer and confession, prayer and confession, prayer and confession. Asking God to help us see what he sees, and confessing when we slip over into judgmental attitudes about other people.


Who are the people of faith that see the world differently than you? Have you been keeping them at arm’s length? Have you been judging them, or loving them?


Dear God, these are the people who love you and who see the world differently than I do: (List some of these people by name). Help me to see them the way you see them. Forgive me for the times I’ve judged them, rather than loved them. In Christ’s Name, Amen.

Explore online Bible commentary for Matthew 7:1-2 at the Theology of Work Project.
This post was originally published on May 29, 2016.

Deidra Riggs

Writer & Author

Deidra Riggs is a national speaker, an editor, and the founder and host of Jumping Tandem: The Retreat, a bi-annual event for writers, authors, and entrepreneurs. She is a storyteller who creates safe space for navigating...

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