Workday Prayers: When a Friend Turns Against You

By Mark D. Roberts

February 5, 2021

Scripture – Psalm 55:20-22 (NRSV)

My companion laid hands on a friend
+++and violated a covenant with me
with speech smoother than butter,
+++but with a heart set on war;
with words that were softer than oil,
+++but in fact were drawn swords.
Cast your burden on the LORD,
+++and he will sustain you;
he will never permit
+++the righteous to be moved.


When someone at work opposes us, that’s difficult. When that someone is a friend, or an apparent friend, at any rate, it’s more than difficult. It’s deeply painful. When this happens, we are free to pour out our hearts to God, to tell him everything. Jesus knows what it’s like to be betrayed by a friend. He will understand. And, by grace, he will sustain us in our struggle.


O Lord, my heart is heavy and I am deeply troubled. It’s one thing when someone at work opposes me. But it’s something altogether more horrible when that person is a friend. I think of the times when we enjoyed each other’s company and I grieve the loss of such friendship.

I feel hurt, Lord, but more than hurt. I feel betrayed by someone whose benign speech hid a cancerous attack. O Lord, this feels terrible.

Thank you, dear Lord, for understanding how I feel. Jesus, you knew what it was like to feel betrayal. One of our closest followers turned you over to be crucified. Another denied you publicly and repeatedly. Others abandoned you in your moment of greatest pain. So you get it, Lord.

What can I do now other than lay all of this upon you? Here is my burden, my sadness, my anger. Here I am before you, open and vulnerable. I’m holding nothing back. Help me, Lord. Sustain me. Heal me. Amen.

Ponder Throughout the Day

When a friend hurts you, lay that heavy weight upon the Lord and his grace.

For Further Reflection

Read all of Psalm 55, seeing what else God might say to you about your work through this psalm.

You might also read Matthew 26:47-56 and 69-75.

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Mark D. Roberts

Senior Strategist

Dr. Mark D. Roberts is a Senior Strategist for Fuller’s Max De Pree Center for Leadership, where he focuses on the spiritual development and thriving of leaders. He is the principal writer of the daily devotional, Life for Leaders,...

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